or rather, when you are on the losing side.
it can happy in any situtation with more than one party.
the other person is calm, blase, not even thinking of anything, and you are visualising so many scenarious in your head, you are planning your speech, you are fantasizing and loathing, and all of this is affecting and contorting you, and the other party just doesn't care.
In those situations, I feel like a fool.
unless it's an already accepted dichotomy, for example in the case of dealing with a demanding boss.
your boss sends you one-liner e-mails with reckless abandon while as you write your responses with such care and precision.
or you're at a party, and you are involved in some alternative heavy drama
you are all emotional and anxious, while as everybody is on something else.
